Dating Tips for Shy Guys

Women often think all guys are confident, sure of themselves and have no problems getting women. Some guys are like that, but many aren't. Almost all of guys have had no idea how to meet woman they like. Dating tips for shy guys are usually few and far between, too. Here are Dating Tips to help shy guys meet women.

1. Women love Shy Guys
   
   It's true, I'm not making this stuff up. Women simply adore guys that are shy, and honestly I'm not sure why. It's something about the way we act, think, blush, and smile that just drives them crazy… and it's been shown that most guys that are shy actually make a better man in a long term relationship. This is your secret weapon – remember it every time something happens, positive or negative, with a girl. You are what the majority of women want, so don't lose that shy, qsuiet, introverted side of you.


2. Don't try to meet women in bars.
   
   The most important tip I think there is. Just like women don't usually want to meet a potential boyfriend in a bar, I wouldn't recommend trying to meet a potential girlfriend in one. Bars are loud, smoky and usually full of people who are quite drunk. You're not only usually going to find more of a Party Girl in a bar, but you're also likely to be disappointed when you meet her in the daylight. In the bar, in her drunken stupor, you may have looked like somebody she wanted to get to know better. In daylight, things and people can look very different. There's no point setting yourself up for disappointment before you even start so - avoid the bars!


3. Join a few clubs.
   
   At first, don't even worry about trying to find a girlfriend. Just sign up for a few clubs or classes that you might find interesting. Walking clubs, movie nights, political organizations, dog walking groups, sports clubs, French classes, cooking classes, computer classes - they're all places where, most importantly, you'll probably make some new friends. They're also places where you might meet an interesting woman and surprise, when you do, she'll probably have something in common with you.


4. When you do meet a woman you like, don't think about her as a possible girlfriend.
   
   The secret to a great relationship is to be the best of friends. If you meet a woman you think you might like, get to know her first. Put it out of your head that she might be a potential girlfriend or wife. Instead, learn more about her, enjoy her company and have fun.
   
   When you do this, the woman is less uncomfortable or threatened and she'll let her guard down, and you won't be worrying about trying to impress. That way, you'll both be having a great time before you know it and who knows what might happen?


5. Be liked for yourself.
   
   Don't try to be somebody you're not. Don't pretend you're a bad boy, a jerk, a ladies man etc if you’re not. Women always almost hate that but, even if she likes it, who wants someone to fall in love with somebody they're not anyway? You can't keep it up for the rest of your life, so why even start?
   
   Be yourself. Relax. Talk about the things you're interested in, ask her questions about herself, find something you both have in common and discuss it. Then, even if she's not 'The One', you still might have found someone you can talk to and she could turn out to be a great friend.


6. Taking Small Steps
   
   No one expects you to be the next great pick up artist by tomorrow, so don't expect it of yourself. Instead, start small, and realize that it takes time to become good with women.
   
   Start with just a smile to the hot – and even not so hot – girls around you, whether it's in the mall or in a club. This makes you look approachable, and friendly. You might even find that you run into a girl who doesn't mind coming and talking to you first, which is great experience for making conversation.
   
   After you're comfortable flashing a smile, you can start going up to women, just saying hi, or even just starting a small conversation and then going away… you don't need to get her number just yet. Work on being comfortable approaching first.



7. Just do it!
   
   When you meet a woman and you feel that overpowering fear coming on and you just know you're not going to have the courage to talk to her. Just do it. Forget the fear, take a deep breath, walk right over and say "Hi". Women usually like the confident, strong, outgoing guys. But here's a secret - MOST GUYS ARE FAKING IT. So, you fake it too. Take a deep breath, relax your body, chin up, shoulders back and walk over there like you own the room. By the time you get there, she'll think you do, and she'll already be interested. This is what guys who are successful with women do. They all started by faking it and eventually they weren't even faking it anymore.


8. Women are People, Too.
   
   A lot of guys, and this is something that dating tips for shy guys make note of a lot, put women up on a pedestal. They tell you to see women as this untouchable Goddess of sex and beauty, but really, it's sort of silly.
   
   Women love feeling special, and cared about, and love being treated well… but over-sexualizing them, or attaching a special significance onto them, makes them uncomfortable. And if you start to act like they're above you, they're going to start to feel like they're too good for you, too.
   
   Instead, treat women like an equal – they're people, and most women will respond to being treated as a real person a lot better than some sort of Goddess sent from heaven.

With these tips, you too can meet some great women and can pluck up the courage to talk to any woman. There are women everywhere. Make it a point every day to talk to at least three women you don't know, even if it's just the woman behind the drycleaner's counter. Before you know it, you'll be just as relaxed as the next guy and having fun while you're at it. Be yourself, be friendly, and open up a bit. Hope these 8 Dating Tips for Shy Guys will work for you who need it. Good luck!!